Dealing With Adultery
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In the very early stages of creating this web site, God brought
some very special people across my path. Leanne was one such
person. My marriage was in the beginning stages of restoration,
while she was just beginning the trial. We discovered that a lot
of what we went through was the same, so I asked her to write
about her side of adultery for this site. Although, this is written from a female's perspective, the principles below pertain to either gender and can be applied in countless situations, not just that of adultery. 
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How I Deal with Adultery by Leanne Nava #1 "HEALTHY THINKING IS A HABIT, JUST LIKE NEUROTIC THINKING IS A HABIT, AND HEALTHY HABITS ARE LEARNED IN THE SAME WAY AS UNHEALTHY ONES -- THROUGH PRACTICE" #2 "DEVELOPING YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL STRENGTH IS JUST LIKE DEVELOPING YOUR PHYSICAL ABILITIES -- THE MORE YOU EXERCISE, THE STRONGER YOU BECOME." How do I deal with the anger? To be honest, I can tell you that you will probably have to work at it daily to keep it in check - or at least until "feeling more at ease" becomes a habit or a way of life and you no longer need to think about it consciously. Unfortunately, there's no magical "fix" that will solve it in a "one shot" deal. You need to accept that this IS going to hurt for a while, but with some work on your part, you CAN overcome it - that's life - struggles and victories. Something you may or may not have heard before, but that I can assure you is absolutely true, is when you don't like someone or something, ACT as though you do and the feelings will follow. Believe me, I did not like my husband when I discovered he was cheating on me, but I've ACTED like I liked him. And now I do. In fact, I have fallen more in love with him than I ever thought was possible under such circumstances. Read More -> |
